Before hearing Jim Corcorans story, I
never would have considered calling someone an angel of death. Before hearing his story, such a description
would have conjured images of turmoil and terror, never grace and peace.
Its been three months now since I interviewed Corcoran about his late wife, mediator Kathleen
OConnell Corcoran. I went expecting to hear the story of a beautiful and remarkable life. Instead, as a
cold rain poured down outside the couples warm dining room, I sat transfixed by the story of a beautiful
and remarkable death.
Kathleen died just six months after they found cancer in her
liver. She became critically ill alarmingly fast. A tumor grew so rapidly against her lower spine that the pressure
broke her sacrum, a bone in the pelvis. "She was in blinding pain," her husband recalled.
" She went from being fairly functional to on her death bed in the space of a week."
She spent her last days in the impersonal sterility of a hospital
intensive care unit. Yet it was there that the angel came, helping give her the most personal of deaths.The Roman
Catholic nun was an unlikely presence at Kathleens deathbed. The Corcorans had long ago made peace
with their decision to pursue spiritual growth apart from organized religion. The last thing either would want was
some sort of last-ditch effort at conversion.
Still, something led Jim to welcome Sister Vivian Ripp into the
last hours of Kathleens life. A decision he later credited with making those hours "timeless,
transforming, astounding."
"Music thanatology" is what
Sister Vivian and colleague Loraine McCarthy call their work. Though their Strings of Compassion program is
offered through the pastoral care department at Sacred Heart Medical Center, theres nothing medical
about it. Their only pharmacology is a repertoire of ancient chants rendered on portable wooden harps. Both
women trained with Therese Schroeder-Sheker of Montana, a pioneer in creating contemporary death vigils
based on 11th century monastic records of chants used to comfort the dying.
"We offer a space, through beauty and compassion,
to allow the dying person and the family to move with the resonance of the music, to do whatever it takes to
grieve, experience their feelings, let go." Sister Vivian explained, cradling the heavy harp against her
chest as the broad pads of her fingers plied the multicolored strings. "The key is to be dynamic and
intentional, responsive to whatever is happening."The anxiety of a patient struggling to breathe, for example,
can be soothed by gentle, reassuring musical meter."Even though some of this music is 900 hundred years
old, it still resonates today," she said. "It provides an expression that is not verbal."
At the same time, the music often nudges family members to "to sit on the bed, pour out their hearts,
and verbally express themselves." As they did with Kathleen.
"There were so many friends and family members
gathered around her," Sister Vivian recalled. "You could feel their warmth and deep respect
for her. We all gathered around her bed and held hands. I asked each person to thank her for what she had
brought to their lives."
The silver-haired nun doubled over with laughter at the idea of
her work as an attempt at conversion. " Our role is to be supportive of the way the people present look
at meaning and the sacred," she explained. "her needs are to be supported and
reverenced."Besides, in many ways, death vigils are the most common of spiritual denominators."
They force us to face that death is part of all our human experience, that somehow it has to be incorporated into
our meaning of the word life, " Sister Vivian said. "Death can be among the
most profound moments of life. Looking through the vulnerable eyes of death is like putting on glasses that allow
us to see only what is essential. Sometimes it also allows, in the depths of sadness and loss, a sense of the
sacred a sense that, somehow, this too is all right." Such was Kathleen Corcorans
death.
"It was strikingly, overwhelmingly beautiful," her husband said. "This woman was not
into converting. She was like an angel there to serve us. Im so happy this is a possibility for us in
Eugene." "There was so much tenderness and mercy and gentleness in that room, the anguish and
grief were tempered. I was holding Kathleen, and the others were holding me, and we watched this beautiful
woman go off to this other place.
"There was this amazing feeling of being, I want to
say, blessed."
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