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The music, beautiful and soothing, let her reflect on a full life -
an Alabama childhood, a long and happy marriage, the death of her son, the
birth and bloom of her daughter.
"Oh, it's so sad sometimes. But that's how life is. . . and
I have had a good life."
The use of music to comfort the sick and the dying is ancient and its
benefits well documented. Physicians say the heart rate slows, breathing
clears and rest comes when calming music is played to the ill. The Greeks
knew it. The Celts knew it, and medieval monks knew it, using chants to
bring what they called a blessed death. But the practice was nearly forgotten
in modern times as societies became disconnected from the spiritual significance
of death. Now, musical medicine is experiencing a renaissance. Though not
yet mainstream, the practice of playing harps for the ailing has been revived,
with numerous schools and training workshops opening around the country.
Jeri Howe, 45, and Gary Plouff, 48, met in 1994 when they became part
of the second graduating class of one such school in Montana. Over the past
few years, they have together and separately played hundreds of vigils.
They carry their harps down the darkened hallways of hospices, trauma
centers and nursing homes to the bedsides of the dying, where they play
and sing. They give comfort and reassurance. They gain enlightenment.
"We've learned that life is holy," said Howe.
" That life is fragile and precious and temporary. And we've learned
that there is something more, something sacred and eternal, too". "Our
culture hides death away, and you can live your whole life without seeing
someone die. But to see it, to witness it and to know that it doesn't have
to be scary, to know that there is transcendence, is an honor."
Plouff remembers an elderly woman in a hospice in Montana. He and another
harpist were with her in her room. He knelt down by her bed. He held
her hand, stroked her cheek and sang. As she died, he felt her spirit pass
out through the window, into a meadow of wild flowers and the world beyond.
Plouff remembers playing in a room filled with people who were saying
goodbye to a 17-year-old boy. As Plouff played, they embraced and prayed
and cried together, and the love that they had for the boy, who was dying
of leukemia, moved Plouff.
Howe remembers a woman about her own age who was dying of breast cancer.
As Howe plucked her harp in the woman's West Seattle home, the woman
died. Her mother and sisters surrounded her. "It was beautiful and
peaceful. The sun was setting on the one side, and the moon was rising
on the other. She picked a perfect moment to die."
EMBRACING THE HARP
Howe was a stay-at-home mother with a toddler and a newborn, a husband
and a house in Shoreline when she bought her first harp to play lullabies
to the baby. She was already an accomplished pianist and took to the harp
naturally."It's so beautiful and fun to play and it feels so good
when you wrap your arms around it," she said.
In 1991, she was asked by her church, the United Methodist Church, to
play at a retreat for people living with AIDS. "Their bodies were wasting
away to nothing, and they could hardly walk. But they would come and
lie down by the harp to receive the music. I could see the need and the
thirst. I didn't know what I was doing, but I knew that it was something."
Shortly after, she read about the school in Montana that calls itself
The Chalice of Repose Project, and she knew, though it would take her several
years to get there, that she had to attend.
Plouff was working as a caregiver for the terminally ill in Eugene when
he, too, read about the Chalice Project. Originally from Massachusetts,
where he'd played the church organ as a young man, he had moved to New York
in the 1980s, during the emotional height of the AIDS epidemic, to study
photography at New York University. He got his degree and, as a result
of the crisis, also became deeply involved in caretaking and healing techniques.
"I knew that I was called to help people in need, to work with the dying.
. . . I ended up in Eugene, working as a caregiver but not really knowing
why I was there," he said. "Then I read an article about the Chalice Project,
and it called to me deeply." Unlike Howe, he had not played the harp
before he arrived at the school. The moment he did, though, he said,
"Where have you been all my life?"
MORE THAN MUSIC
Along with their classmates in the two-year program, Howe and Plouff
studied epic literature, music, medicine, pharmacology, anatomy, social
work and voice. They did research and wrote papers about ancient rituals
surrounding death and dying. They practiced and played until callouses
formed on the tips of their fingers. Howe commuted from Montana to Seattle
to see her husband and her little girls during her tenure at the school,
and she returned home upon graduation in 1996. Plouff, who had no lasting
ties to Eugene, moved to Seattle that year as well, where he now lives
on Capitol Hill. Requests for their services come from social workers, spouses,
doctors, daughters and chaplains. The charge for an hour-long session
is flexible, depending on the means of the dying and their loved ones.
The two have never denied a request for service and often have gone unpaid.
Though it's not a lucrative calling - Plouff works a second job taking
care of an elderly couple - its rewards are profound.
MEMORIES SET TO A MELODY
At Lynnwood Manor, Sara Hansen brushed tears from her eyes after Howe
and Plouff played "Garten Mother's Lullaby" and "Jesu dulcis" for her.
She talked about her little boy, David Eugene Hansen, who died of cancer
when he was 4. She talked about her husband, whom she met during World War
II while he was in the service and with whom she moved to Marysville, then
Everett, then Arizona. "We made a good marriage of it." She talked
about her parents. Her dad was tall, her mom was very short, and they
raised four midsized daughters in a poor but peaceful home. She talked about
her daughter, her grandchildren and her one great-granddaughter who lives
over the mountains in Spokane. She gave Howe and Plouff a hug before they
left. "I wish I had something to give you," she whispered.
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